People talk about personal growth and development, but when it comes down to it, most are still stuck playing small despite what they say. Is it for a lack of trying? Usually no, but it often results from a form of self-sabotage.
Playing small is the result of a lifetime of conditioning. Think back to when you were growing up. How often did you hear from someone “All you need to do is go to school, get a good job, have a family, and you will have a great life”? We all have heard something similar to that phrase in one form or another. However, because we heard it during our formative years, it left a huge imprint on how we behave and think day to day.
The idea of success in our minds is typically based off of other peoples blueprints who were small thinkers. As a result, you’ve operated off of a mindset that had held you back in a variety of ways. One of the biggest ways is a subconscious form of self-sabotage. Have you ever noticed that you will have a high amount of drive to accomplish a certain set of goals, but then the moment you reach the edge of your “comfort zone” you find excuses as to why you cannot complete things? It happens to everyone at some point or another.
The only way to overcome this form of limited thinking is to change our operating system. That means it’s time for an upgrade!
First, you have to recognize how you are sabotaging yourself. The easiest and fastest way to do this is to look at past goals in your life you didn’t accomplish. Examine what went wrong, and how you might have stopped yourself short. Once you have identified them, you will want to make a list of all the activities you would do to stop yourself in the tracks. Also, make a list of the emotions you felt at the time you began to sabotage yourself. These two things are critical in stopping yourself from going down the wrong path in the future.
Now when you are working on your goals, you will want to be aware the moment you begin showing the emotions or performing actions that are not conducive to you achieving your goals.
To truly experience growth, you will have to create goals that are completely out of your comfort zone. When you begin pushing thru the barriers holding you back, you will realize you are capable of so much more. Often the only thing any of us need to achieve bigger and better goals is proof that we can do it.
If you want to increase the probability of achieving your new set of goals, find an accountability partner who will hold your feet to the fire. You want someone who will call you out on your crap, not coddle you. Breaking thru limiting beliefs can be painful because it requires us to leave our comfort zones behind, and grow.
Once we have begun putting our limiting beliefs behind us, thinking small will be a thing of the past!